Comments on: Breaking Negative Soul Ties: Getting Rid of Emotional and Romantic Baggage

By: Megan

Megan — Sun, 16 Feb 2020 17:50:52 +0000

I had a relationship for 6 years with a person who manipulated, emotionally abused, and later on physically abused me. Our relationship was extremely toxic and I was always convinced that they had changed for the better, which they never did. They were so controlling and even though we haven’t been together for two years, I still think about them every single day and I feel like I am being haunted with this unhealthy relationship. My mind idolizes them and I know it’s so unhealthy and I want so badly to heal and forgive and move on with my life. I have nightmares nearly every night about them and I don’t know what else to do. I haven’t had any contact with them since we broke up and have blocked them on everything so I’m not sure how they keep popping up in my head. I am seeking prayer and advice. Thank you.

By: Paris

Paris — Fri, 28 Sep 2018 07:47:57 +0000

I’ve been knowing this guy for ten years that I’d shared an unhealthy relationship with. We break up we make up; we’ve been apart for as long as three years. However, it seems like I take him back each time. I feel that I have a soul tie to him because I take him back each time with knowing he’s with other women.
What should I do?

Paris

By: Carol Whitaker

Carol Whitaker — Sun, 29 Oct 2017 23:58:32 +0000

Hi Lee, thanks so much for commenting here. I am glad the article was encouraging to you. I will pray for you. Please let us know if you have any other questions along the way!

By: Lee M

Lee M — Sat, 28 Oct 2017 22:15:28 +0000

I am so glad I found your blog! Although I had done significant research on breaking soul ties, and prayed to break them, I was still in torment. I was feeling the same prompting to contact people and apologize for my role in the immoral behavior, however, I had never heard of doing that. I really feel that I need to do that to be free. It is such a blessing to read your story!! I have not began to contact people from my past yet and it is very intimidating, but I know it’s what I need to do. Thank you!!! Please pray for me.

By: Carol Whitaker

Carol Whitaker — Thu, 04 Aug 2016 14:07:39 +0000

Hi Roshelle, thanks for being brave enough to write a comment here. I want to assure you that God is in the business of restoration, and there is nothing that He can’t repair or heal — including a broken heart. Based on the few lines here, it sounds like this person still may have a hold on you. I wrote this post from a Christian perspective (using the steps God had me take in my own situations), and I am not sure if you are a Christian, but if you are, here are some steps I would suggest: 1. Confess the sexual sin to God if you haven’t already. Ask Him to forgive you. Know that Romans 8:1 assures us that there is no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus. Satan wants to remind us of our sins and make us feel guilty and condemned for what we have done, but know that Jesus forgives you fully for what you have done. It is important to confess the sin, though — and remind ourselves of the truth of Romans 8:1 when Satan attempts to remind us of past failings. 2. Forgive him if there has been any bitterness or unforgiveness towards him about the way things ended. Say it out loud: I forgive [his name] for hurting me. And ask Jesus to forgive you if you have harbored any unforgiveness towards him. If you are struggling to forgive him, do this action anyway. It will help you begin to forgive him, even if you don’t feel that way right now. 3. If you have confessed this sin to God, I would ask God if there are any further steps you need to take. I felt that God wanted me to contact the people I had been involved with and apologize for my part in the sin, but I realize this may not be possible in any situation. Also, there was some bitterness towards these individuals about the way they had treated me, and I had acted out of this bitterness by saying things I shouldn’t have about these individuals, so I needed to express how much they hurt me and that I forgave them. These were not easy actions, and they felt so awkward and hard at the time — but this really worked. The shame inside disappeared, as did the obsessive thoughts/feelings. As I expressed in my post, I would seek the help of a mature Christian friend, pastor or counselor as you are walking through this. If you do this step, I would keep the contact very minimal. If feelings are still present for him, it may end up leading you back down a road you don’t want to go down. Also, don’t worry about his response. If he thinks you are weird or doesn’t respond, you have done your part — you are free regardless of what he thinks. In one instance, I wrote a brief letter — explained that I was a Christ-follower and was going through some healing in my life, noted what he had done to hurt me, what ways I had responded in the wrong way, apologized for the physical involvement, and left it at that. 4. Break off any ties you have with him (if any still remain). If you have him on Facebook or have mutual friends with him that are posting pictures of him, etc., I would take steps to unfriend him and make it so pictures and/or info about him isn’t visible on your feed so you can move on. If you were still in a relationship with him, my advice to you would be a little different. However, it sounds as if you have parted ways. And, if you aren’t a Christian, I would encourage you to accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior — and allow Him to heal you walking through these steps.

By: Roshelle Gabriel

Roshelle Gabriel — Wed, 03 Aug 2016 06:40:38 +0000

I feel like i have an unhealthy soul tie from october 2014 i was involved with a guy for four month and im not sure what his intentions were with me but he said he wanted a relationship at first but after we had been sexually involved he didnt seem like he wanted a relationship anymore..i feel like i have a soul tie because i feel empty and distant..i dont know what i should do now