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A few years ago, God told me that I was going to start a self-worth ministry, and I had no idea how to do this or what my message even was going to be. Through a journey of several years that God took me on to address the past I had been running from, I learned through each hard conversation and difficult thing God had me do something really important: While I had always assumed I had made mistakes and bad choices because I was bad — I learned that there was a common thread that ran through all of my poor decisions. And it was this: I had a problem with identity.
I was believing a whole lot of lies and didn’t even know it. After suffering rejection in some key relationships, I determined I was unloveable and unworthy of others’ time and attention. Because of that belief I formed, I tried my best to hide who I really was and become what I thought other people wanted or needed. I formed a slew of coping mechanisms to help me get through every day:
- I became a people-pleaser.
- I found it difficult to say no or confront someone because I feared rejection.
- I attached myself to unhealthy people and let myself be used or used others in relationships.
- I used my work ethic and performance to earn affection and attention from people I didn’t feel worthy to be around.
- I couldn’t draw healthy boundaries in relationships.
- I developed an addiction to approval.
The list goes on. One by one, God took me down this list and showed me that I could live a different way and that I didn’t have to live in such dysfunction anymore.
The way that God began to help me change is to help me understand who I was in Him. Though I had grown up in church (baptized at age 7), I did not really understand who He made me to be. One key idea I learned in a Hope training course I went through is that people can’t change their behavior by focusing on their behavior — they change it by focusing on their beliefs. Once I started replacing my faulty beliefs with truth from God’s Word, I began to view myself and my relationships differently. I realized I am a precious, loved child of God, and He has orchestrated special works for me to do.
I figured when I had it all together I would be ready to start a ministry site, but I have discovered that this transformation of beliefs is ever-ongoing and is truly a life-long process. Every time I think I have one area mastered, God starts working on me in a different area, and I have stopped writing from the place of “I have it all together” to “I am a work in progress.”
After starting the site, in talking with some other women God brought my way, I realized I wasn’t alone in having to learn what it meant to find identity in Christ. I found many other Christian women who had struggled in similar areas — and though their stories differ slightly from mine, at their core is the same truth that I had to find: it is impossible to love and appreciate who God made you to be unless you know and accept who He says you are.
With that in mind, I asked these like-minded women to join me in this ministry and offer their stories and life lessons to you. I hope our articles encourage and help you on your journey to discovering your beautiful worth and purpose in Christ.
Beulah Girl Founder