Why Won’t God Bless Me?

God Bless Me

My husband had a professor in college who responded to most, if not all, student queries with a standard phrase of, “Check the website.” The professor’s use of the phrase became a joke in our home. If I inquired about something around the house or asked my husband a question, he would often look at me and say (in his best imitation of the professor’s voice), “Check the website.”

Although humorous, the professor’s intent in using the same answer was most likely that he wanted students to do what they needed to before they could expect an action from him.

Spiritually, we can apply this same “check the website” principle when we start to feel that God isn’t blessing us. Although God isn’t as gruff as my husband’s instructor, and certainly wants us to come to Him and ask when we don’t know the answer in a situation, there are times that we can examine our actions against God’s Word and discover that we aren’t reaping what we want in a particular area because of what we are sowing.

In his devotional My Utmost for His Highest, Oswald Chambers explains how we should all “turn up” or check the “spiritual index.” According to Merriam-Webster.com, an “index” is a device (such as the gnomon on a sundial) that gives a particular value or an indicator that leads us to a conclusion:

Never say it is not God’s will to give you what you ask, don’t sit down and faint, but find out the reason, turn up the index. Are you rightly related to your wife, to your husband, to your children, to your fellow-students … Have I been asking God to give me money for something I want when there is something I have not paid for? Have I been asking God for liberty while I am withholding it from someone who belongs to me? … If we turn up the index, we will see very clearly what is wrong — that friendship, that debt, that temper of mind.”

The Blessing of Reaping and Sowing  

Essentially, Chambers points out that many of us are asking for a blessing when there is a reason we can’t have it, indirectly referring to the principle of reaping and sowing in the Bible. Just like the sun causes a shadow to fall across a sun dial when its rays hit the pointer (gnomon) in order to tell the time, God’s truth causes our own examinations or “gnomons” to point to a particular problem in our lives when we subject ourselves to the light of His truth.

This isn’t to say that God can’t bless us just because He wants to. And, obviously, there are times when we don’t receive blessing because it isn’t in God’s timing or He has delayed his response to work out our character or His answer is no.

However, I know I have been guilty of blaming God when I don’t get what I want out of a circumstance even when I haven’t exactly invested what I should to get the harvest at the proper time. As Galations 6:7,8 tells us: “God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. From the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap, but the one who sows to the spirit will from the spirit reap eternal life.”

Although this passage is talking primarily about those who spend their money on worldly pleasures while neglecting to support the church, we can apply this to other areas of our lives. As commentator Albert Barnes notes, “Every kind of grain will produce grain like itself.” If I am acting in ways that are corrupt in my relationships or my finances, those choices will eventually come back to affect me.

I don’t know about you, but for most of my life I’ve worked on the external, making my outward actions look as good as possible for those around me, while hiding some secrets. But I hadn’t realized that this is essentially “mocking God” (v. 7). I can’t just pretend to be a good person. Merely assuming outward forms of “Christian” behavior does not deceive God. I may get away with my sin-hiding for a time, but the Bible is very clear that God notices my true motives even if I fool everyone around me.

In essence, Galations 6 reminds me that the good actions I do will bring good to me. The bad actions I do will bring me bad. And if I don’t act at all, I will reap nothing. Therefore, if I want a blessing or I know God has promised me one, and I’m not getting it, I need to check the “index” – look at some my deeds and what fruit they are producing in my life.

God Blessed Me Financially When I Obeyed 

A perfect example of the principle of sowing and reaping at work in my life is when we were attempting to sell our townhouse and move into a bigger home. Our house was on the market for a year and a half, and we hadn’t had a single offer. I kept telling myself it wasn’t selling because of the location, the cramped floor plan, the plain master bathroom, or the lack of a basement. However, those were not the answers that gave me any peace; there was something else, and I knew it. What came to mind when I prayed about it was an unpaid sum of money I had promised to the church.

I had pledged a sum over a period of four years to help pay for a church remodeling project, and after making a few monthly payments, I had gotten lazy and stopped paying on the debt. A few years in, I still owed money to fulfill my commitment. When I received a check for some training I had completed for work and it was almost the exact amount I needed, I handed over the money to the remodeling fund and felt an instant sense of peace. One month later our “unsellable” house was under contract, and we were in the joyful process of looking for a new place to live.

Skeptics might look at this and say there was no correlation between our house sale and the church payment — labeling what happened as “coincidence.” However, I have seen the principle of the index at work enough times in my own life to know that when I fulfill a pledge, I prepare myself to receive a blessing. Chambers affirms this idea when he says, “It is no use praying unless we are living as children of God. Then, Jesus says — ‘Everyone that asketh, receiveth.’ ”

Checking the index in this case was not too painful; I had to give up some money I would rather have used on something else. However, there have been other times I have had to make awkward apologies or seek reconciliation with a friend after wronging them, and it was excruciatingly hard. Many times, I have not wanted to obey — I’ve wanted to just skip the process altogether.

Index-checking is not a ritual or a legalistic practice I do to obtain righteousness; the Bible is clear that righteousness is a gift (Romans 3:20-25). Nor do I need to constantly meditate on my wrongdoing or allow myself to feel condemnation for my sin. By reading His Word and allowing His truth to penetrate my heart, I can know those areas where I need to let go of anger, make an apology, confess an area of bitterness, or pay money on a debt.

In my own experience, God has offered me more grace than I really deserve. A lot of times when I think I know the problem but I am not sure, I’ll ask Him for confirmation, and He answers me. If we are seeking God intently, He will help us in the way to go. He will help us to know the areas we need to work on that are preventing us from receiving the blessing we are looking for.

I encourage you. Have you checked your index? What might Jesus be pointing out to you? If you already know of a relationship that needs to be mended or a grudge you have held against another, go immediately and right the wrong you have done.

“Whatsoever good thing a man doeth, this shall he receive again from the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:8 — KJV)

Carol Whitaker

Carol Whitaker is a coach's wife, mom, writer, and singer. She left a career in teaching in 2011 to pursue a different path at God's prompting. While she thought that the path would lead straight to music ministry, God had different plans -- and Carol found herself in a crisis of spirituality and identity. Out of that place, Carol began writing about the lessons God was teaching her in her desert place and how God was teaching her what it meant to be healed from a painful past and find her identity in Him rather than a title, a relationship, a career, or a ministry. These days, Carol spends her time shuttling her little ones back and forth from school, supporting her coach-husband on the sidelines, and writing posts. Carol also continues to love music and hopes to pick up piano playing again. Carol is a self-proclaimed blog junkie and iced-coffee lover. She resides in Georgia with her husband and three children.

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    • Carol Whitaker says

      Thank you, Rachel. Unfortunately, I have learned this principle mainly through the not-so-great times in my life that I have reaped consequences as the result of my own bad choices, but lately, I have working on making wise choices — and I am expecting to reap some good from those decisions. Glad the post was a blessing to you.

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